Death-defying roller coasters, swimming with sharks, skydiving, running with the bulls of Pamplona: child’s play. All of them. When compared with a woman figuring out—maybe for the first time in her life—how powerful she really is nothing even comes close to that thrill. I know because I’ve seen it happen. As women, being a good […] Read more…
Shutting Down That Nasty Inner Voice
I got the best call and the worst call from a friend of mine last week. She and I have been friends since high school which means we’ve seen each other at most of our highest and lowest points—from birth of our first child to passing out cold after drinking one too many Bacardi Breezers. […] Read more…
I’m Done Having Kids: My Quest for Perfect Birth Control
Until six month ago, aside from the two months it took me to get pregnant with each of my sons and the nine months of gestation, I had been on the pill since I was sixteen. In the spirit of full disclosure, there was that one time after the birth of my second and last […] Read more…
Sticks and Stones: When Men Diminish Women at Work
“That girl who works for you, does she cold call for you?” Asked a male co-worker of my business partner. For context I am a forty-two-year-old woman and the man asking is maybe two or three years older than me—if that. Also we’ve worked in the same office for seven years. Yes seven years not […] Read more…
What Running an Endurance Race Taught This Working Mom
We all have our bucket list items. The things we are going to do some day or risk dying with regrets. For those of you in your right minds your bucket lists likely include traveling to beautiful and amazing destinations like Paris or the Maldives. Seeing natural wonders such as the Grand Canyon or the […] Read more…
Strong Women Looking for Strong Men
“Real men provide, real women appreciate it,” proclaims a billboard in North Carolina. And if you are a woman who is married, or in a relationship with a man, or a single mom, or a woman who is married to a woman there’s a good chance that the billboard offends you. I’m pretty sure the […] Read more…
Why the Bunker is so Dangerous and Three Ways to Get Out of it
Fine. I’m fine. I’m just fine. I’m so, so good, good, can’t complain, same old same old, as working moms most of us casually throw out these phrases more often than any other in our vocabulary. We are living this crazy existence trying to be the best wife, mother, professional, and friend possible while there […] Read more…
The Three Reasons I’m Marching—And You Should Too
“Yes this is real life, this is really happening,” said Alec Baldwin as Donald Trump on Saturday Night Live. Pretty much sums up how me, and if recent polls are to be believed, 60% of the rest of the country feel. But guess what folks Alec is right. Donald Trump will be our next president. […] Read more…
Thank You for Teaching me to be a Princess-Warrior, Carrie Fisher
Growing up my mother always told me that I could fall in love with a rich man just as easily as I could fall in love with a poor man. Funny thing for a hippie feminist to say but it was a different time. I know she just wanted me to have a good life. […] Read more…
The Dog Who Taught me Everything Will be All Right
I found my dog, Rupert, in a parking lot of a construction site fourteen years ago. He was covered in matted fur, caked in mud and home to a multitude of bugs. He was so malnourished he couldn’t walk. But he had these amazing, deep, liquid brown eyes that spoke right to my soul. I […] Read more…